30 November, 2010

story of appreciation

i found this story quiet amusing,read it thecoffeeaddicts.com  so i share it here....

one way to raise a child who is high in EQ+IQ+SQ

One young academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial position in a big company. He passed the first interview; the director did the last interview, made the last decision. The director discovered from the CV, that the youth’s academic result is excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research, never has a year he did not score.
The director asked, “Did you obtain any scholarship in school?” and the youth answered “none”.
The director asked, “Is it your father pay for your school fees?” the youth answered, “my father passed away when I was one year old, it is my mother who paid for my school fees.”
The director asked, ” Where did your mother worked?” the youth answered, “my mother worked as cloth cleaner.”
The director requested the youth to show his hand, the youth showed a pair of hand that is smooth and perfect to the director.
The director asked, “Did you ever help your mother washed the cloth before?” The youth answered, “never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books, furthermore, and my mother can wash cloths faster than me.”
The director said, “I had a request, when you go back today, go and help to clean your mother’s hand, and then see me tomorrow morning”.
The youth felt that its chance of landing the job is high, when he went back, he happily wanted to clean his mother’s hand, his mother feel strange, happy but mixed with fear and she showed her hand to the kid. The youth cleaned his mother’s hand slowly, his tear drop down as he did that. It is first time he found his mother’s hand is so wrinkled, and there are so many bruises in her hand. Some bruises incite pains so strong that shiver her mother’s body when cleaned with water. This is the first time the youth realized and experienced that it is this pair of hand that washed the cloth everyday to earn him the school fees, the bruises in the mother’s hand is the price that the mother paid for his graduation and academic excellence and probably his future. After finishing the cleaning of his mother hand, the youth quietly cleaned all remaining clothes for his mother. That night, mother and son talked for a very long time. Next morning, the youth went to the director’s office
The director noticed the tear in the youth’s eye, asked: “Can you tell you what have you done and learned yesterday in your house?” The youth answered, “I cleaned my mother’s hand, and also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes”.
The director asked, “please tell me your feeling.”
The youth said;
Number 1: I knew what appreciation, without my mother is, there would not the successful me today.
Number 2: I knew how to work together with my mother, then only I can realize how difficult and tough to get something done.
Number 3: I knew the importance and value of family relationship.
The director said, ” This is what I am asking, I want to recruit a person that can appreciate the help of other, a person that knew the suffering of others to get thing done, and a person that would not put money as his only goal in life to be my manager. You are hired.”
Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates, every employees worked diligently and in a team, the company’s result improved tremendously.
“A child who has been protected and habitually given whatever he did, he developed “entitlement mentality” and always put himself first. He is ignorance of his parent’s effort. When he started work, he assumed every people must listen to him, and when he became a manager, he would never know how suffering his employee and always blame others. For this kind of people, he can have good result, may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel sense of achievement, he will grumble and full of hatred and fight for more. If we are this kind of protective parent, did we love the kid or destroy the kid?” 

You can let your kid lived in a big house, eat a good meal, learn piano, watch a big screen TV. But when you are cutting grass, please let them experienced it. After a meal, let them washed their plate and bowl together with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a right way. You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parent are, one day their hair will grow gray, same as the mother of that young person. The most important thing is your kid learns how to appreciate the effort and experience the difficulty and learn the ability to work with others to get thing done.


p/s/s: i've seen people who cannot/don't want to help their parent/family in housechores/participate in anything exp themselves and seen the effect is dreadful! grrrr....

belajar untuk terima

si kecilku enggan makan
hanya menyusu sepenuh masa,mcm suri rumah sepenuh masa plak
tapi dalam kuantiti yang berkurangan
siang hanya minum 12oz di nursery
malam pula semakin kurang sejak seminggu yang lalu
tiada lagi bangun sejam sekali, sehingga aku jadi zombie
sekarang cukup rehat,cukup makan,cukup tidur,semua cukup
oh,bergembiralah buat seketika
oleh kerana cukup rehat,smp kena bangun utk sesi pump pula
sebab natural pump sudah penat mulut mungkin
mak mana yg xresah tgk anak yg kurang minum dan tak mahu makan?
tapi....main xde masalah
standard la,asal lari tune je jadi gelabah ayam
mcm ayam berak kapur
aku suspect dia mahu meringankan badannya
tak cukup ringan kah wahai anak?
oit,maknyeee,awak pon dulu masa kecik2 camtulah,ringan sahaja (o_o)
tapi if awak sihat2 shj,xpelah
ummi redha.

p/s/s: pepagi buta da wat aku hilang mood tgk maid mandikan baby smp pijak2,n jirus air dlm mulut baby..
kalo aku dpt la,mmg mcm lipas mati aku kejekn maid tu.*emosi* mau lari pegi spot cek lagi nursery Rijal.

29 November, 2010

mission accomplish!

alhamdulillah
3 misi da berjaya didapatkn...
the last one;CD berjaya dibeli dgn harga yg murah di expo baby & parent
syukur2...berjaya juga dijadikan kenyataan

cuma nk buat penambahbaikkan selepas ni
lunatots buat sale 10-20% mmg peluang keemasan la
kena buat kajian n rasa sdr nnt bg testimoni plak la..
abah rijal dah excited,sbb jimat duit dia..muahahahaha
tapikan,yg haku geram,bapak2 budak ni mcm xde perasaan
main redah je,bkn kire yg pmpn ni bwk baby ke ngandung ke
selambe je siku2 n tolak2
perghhh,kalo ikot ati panas aku masa dulu,mmg kena ngn aku
another thing, nursing room mmg ade
xpela setakat kerusi meja shj
yg geram nih,ade la anak cha-ya-nun-alif- main gasing dlm tu?
anak haku nk BF pon terkejut2
haiyoh,mmg xde sivik tol

oye,jumaat lepas Rijal kena batuk+selsema
aku suspect ade bdk nursery yg bwk
or
puting dia tertukar n bdk pny puting tu mmg ade flu+cough
nk dijadikan cter
sabtu makin teruk batuk dia
sian sgt,batuk mcm org tua yg gatal2 tekak
so i make use this petua
which is minyak  masak
amik lumur sket kat dada,tekak n belakang
alhamdulillah,mmg terus kurg..
lendir+kahak sume kuar ikot najis
(aku buat jgk tepuk2 depan blkg,tgn kena buat melengkung,so dat kahak pecah)
mlm2 sapu je minyak masak tu
kdg2 letak kat batang hidung (selain kunyit,utk legakan selsema n sumbat hidung)
sbb...minyak masak ni panas...jgn letak byk2... :)
since i knew certain thing,i try my best not-to-give-too-many-drugs/medicine-to-my-baby

26 November, 2010

cuti-cuti malaysia

terpaksa dibatalkan due to---no AL anymore!
waakakakka....
so carry forwad to date: to be comfirm
choiiii....
apekan daya....kite merancang,tetapi tuhan sebaik2 perancang....
decide nk p makan,rehat shj as both of us not a shopaholic person
so no urban holiday....
best giler
kalo ikot haku, mmg nk p hiking
tp mn mau letak Rijal?
dlm backpack?wakakakak
tggu besar sket...ade plan nk bwk dia p hiking....
build self confident+mental mau kuat tempuh cabaran hidup...
so....mungkin akan pegi ke
still unknown location
sbb masih dlm perbincangan...wakakkaka....
rehat,nganga,tdo,kenalkn anak dgn alam
so heaven......

hopefully bley pegi cecepat...serabut otak duduk bandar...

25 November, 2010

wonderful 7

alhamdulillah..he's 7 month today!
Still exclusively BF with no solids
Reason: he's not ready yet..time will tell when n what
Thank you Allah
Ummi sgt2 bsyukur dkurnia anak sprt Rijal
His milestone already been recorded at ummi's personal blog
One thing 4 sure, i never put high expectation on u my baby,thus u prove me was wrong!
could never been grateful enough for that
My dua' n prayers will always with u.

24 November, 2010

b.e.n.g.a.n.g

-bile-xde-anak-ko-sibuk-nk-anak-isteri-penat-mintak-hantar-ko-merungut-
-eh-nak-kena-tiaw-ni-pakkal-je-la-ko-laki-kawan-aku-

-hidup perlu bersyukur-

sebelum & selepas

kami pulang ke penang jumaat lepas
the night before, mcm besa BF rijal suddenly terasa hangat bdn si kenit ni
ah sudah...
demi anak aku rela xtdo...tdo gak,tp tdo2 ayam
start from 4am rijal cirit birit secara pukal
smp merah2 bon2 dia..sian...
but i suspect he got the diarrhea since that morning (pampers abis,bon2 merah)
oh,mau balik penang...rushing...
so kepala otak jd serabut
otw dlm perjalanan,kena lagi...so decide bwk g klinik tros
lama x lama jgk la nk tunggu...abis sume org bdk kecik ni tegur
maklumla,anak i ni tgh peramah...so layankn je...
1st time okeh jmp doctor gov yg sgt ceria n tulus
aku tny dia terang dgn detail
i like her...mmg mdoakan dia maju dlm karier dia...
she checked my baby tp since this little guy still active
(yes,dia keep on babble,jumping like no one bisnes)
doctor soh monitor shj,ok..puas ati
continue blk penang dgn bdk yg aktif ni..
the next day,alhamdulillah...kembali sihat
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back from penang, suddenly body temp rijal increase blk...
haiyoh....ghisau
mmg xtdo mlm aku,btl2 xtdo this time...
wat sponging...tetibe kol 12 dia merengek yg amat
try bg mkn ubat,dia reject siap muntah
2x muntah after feed dgn medicine
*klise:after muntah rijal toleh kat abah dia mcm ckp,"i told u,i dont want to eat this med!"*
so amik air asam jawa(buat pekat2) letak kat kepala dia
n alhamdulillah it works...
siangnya dia melekat je dgn aku
ummi dia nk mandi dia leh plak nangis mdayu2...
xjadi mandi...dokla memegang dia...
ptg tu,da ok...leh main kejar2...
aku lari dia merangkak lelaju kejo...hahahaha...
berpeluh2 dak kecik tu...

oh,ni vdoe dia mbebel b4 tdo...
sila jgn tgk..nnt anda pening
 

p/s::dia bley turun sdr dr bouncer tu...mcm ulat gonggok..heheh

20 November, 2010

kelebihan

sumber pemakanan tidak terhad di penang
Terpulang pada korg
Kena pandai cari mknn yg sedap+murah=berbaloi

Kt PIL pny rumah;
Kenduri=catering=xbyk keje+xrenyah
Rijal=cucu sulung=tumpuan
Rijal=BF=masa hny dgn ummi=xpyh buat kije sgt=heaven
Muahahaha...tp itula,MIL spoting,xbg tinggal Rijal sorg if dia tdo..so dgn omi dia skali lena..kuikui
I like...btanduk setan haku

16 November, 2010

rabak

mata....
nk masuk 9hari budak kecik ni bgn pepagi utk main...
hoh...
sudah dpt akal len ye anak?
mggu lepas lg menguji mata
kol 7pm tdo,kol 2pagi bgn main...
b4 tu mmg dia akan bgn sejam skali utk BF...
lebam....tp aku xkisah dia bgn BF...mmg aku suruh pon...ngahahahahha

yg hoyeh....dia bgn utk main secara diam...
memula bgn main sensorang....
agak2 boring,
dia kejut ummi dia (shj) dgn mengorek lubang idung,mata,mulut....
kalo xsedar jgk
mari panjat bdn ummi n buat bunyi kuat2....
kesudahannye..mata wa jadi mata panda....
image:google
ngantok meh xcukop tdo...
tp aku tau menda ni akan jadi...
sbb mak,SIL da penah cter...
xpe,lambat laun akan back to normal....
this wik,pattern Rijal bgn kol 445pagi main...
tepat plak tu...bertuah anak....
the best thing,alhamdulillah...dia dgr cakap...
aku soh tdo,kang bgn blk,dia ikot....
cuma take times... :)

lama2 da get used...sudahnya aku yg beria main dgn dia...
sonok gak...siang xdpt main together2....
tdo pon awal....so,i value this moment....
cherish it....baby cepat membesar :)

15 November, 2010

spot cek

aku suke wat edisi terjah kat taska tu...
muahahahha...
tp pastu sdr lemah hati,tros main dgn anak...pang!!

alhamdulillah....keadaan memuaskan...
blom tahap membanggakan...
xpe,leh improve...
yg penting anakku selamat d bwh jagaan mereka...
dtg2 si kecik da nmpk ummi dia...
letak melalak (uuuuuuu...pandai merajuk ko...ade la setengah jam duduk...)
bagi sedas direct BF,pujuk2,pas kat cikgu dia,tros cabot...

lega hati ummi ini....
syukur.....

15.11.10

to-date-here
aku cuak+risau
sebab........................
rijal da dipindahkan kelas
besanya dia dok ngn babies (0-12month)
tp arini taska dia ubah cara
baby(0-5;belum merangkak) duduk satu bilik, siap baby cot
(merangkak>berjalan) satu bilik lain...
oh no....even tho bdk kecik tu da merangkak
dia kecik lagi....standard hati ibukn,u always a baby
komplen::: xde mainan kat klas tu....
                tahap sosial bdk2 bsr dgn baby...rijal paling kecik kat c2...wuwuwuwuwu

xpela....at least nnt rijal akan cepat belajar dok c2 ayat pujuk diri sdr...
cepat sesuaikn diri,pandai bawak diri ye sayang.....
knowing u my dear....insyaallah u'll be fine...


bersangka baik dgn Allah, dan berserah padaNya....

makmum kecik (padahal tgh main bekas susu tu)

ni xde kaitan...
mgkin dapat hasil direct BF ms weekend...
syukur...rezeki anak
1st time dpt hasil byk ni (today,morning) alhamdulillah

08 November, 2010

six month and ...........

has not eating solid foods...
y?
just because he don't want to
tried once.twice.thrice. and
still
no success yet.
latest
he ate epal...
saje je nk bagi dia rase...
kot2 la suka...
pas sedut2...
bley plak dia muntah...
bubur nasi kosong ke ebm ke...
sama jgk...
xpela...later ye baby?
u don't want to eat,ummi won't force u...

wan kate mengikut ummi yg hanya menyusu saje,tamau makan
tapi ummi dulu...eh...ntah...hihihi

ke itu adalah petanda utk teruskan saje penyusuan selama 2tahun penuh?
tanpa makanan?
xpe2....we'll see....we'll see....

04 November, 2010

my sis n 3L

muahahahah...
giler jahat..mmg pon...
3L salah satu gelaran diberi pada adik pmpn ku yg sorg
dia xtau ngah dia ade blog
the first L = lambat
            ini budak mmg lambat,bersiap mcm kura-kura
            kalo nk ajak kuar tu,sila la inform sehari sebelum ye...
            hakikatnya,dia adalah sgt teliti orgnye sbb tu jd dia bley analyze all small things
the second L = lembik
            hahahaha...very d anak dara...
            mmg vice versa ngn kakak dia
            tarik rambut sket,terjerit2 sakit
            ajak masuk hutan,tanak.....
            hakikatnya,dia adelah antara org kuat yg rajin kemas uma if ade kenduri kendara
            very firm lady when it comes to decision making
the 3rd L = lemau
            hoih...goram ha...ssh kefahaman...
            kena penjelasan yg terang n nyata
            hakikatnya....dia adalah adik perempuan yg tersayang


da kawen....da ade family....
if not,slalu je tercacak mukanye di rumah kami....
sgt sggp berkorban masa dan duit
jaga k.ngah dia ms dlm pantang mak ayah p umrah ms tu
kami suka bergosip bila pulang ke kampung
memekak di mlm hari smp kena sound..TIDO! 
i miss her...
on her solemnization day...





             

03 November, 2010

tanda ingatan utk diri sendiri

memandangkan diri ini semakin lupe
manjang lupe je...
last night wide awake at 3 am,trying to remember what happened.
so better i jot down my BF journey
utk tatapan dan persediaan bagi BF adik-adik Rijal
second day,home

it's not easy.
i know.
but it worth every drop.
remember azriyani.it's all about faith n courage.
ask HIS blessing.

start with 0 knowledge.kalau ada pon what i know,BF je lah.
yg len blkg cerita.xde heran nk baca2.
after deliver mmg sgt penat n mengantuk.
kena kuat lagi2 kalo bersalin kat spital gomen
request utk BF baby dlm ms sejam after sejam br dpt jmp
baby rooming in mmg ade kat serdang
so kena kuat .again.
amik BF sdr dlm sakit2 tu.
mother instict ask me to hug Rijal non stop smp blk exp nk mandi n p toilet
anytime dia nk feed, im there.
no milk at first.only colustrum.
lacthing-a little problem.
but after belah mulut alhamdulillah..lacthing dia makin berkesan


home-feeding demand=every half n hour.
smp i ask my husband,does he have enuff milk?
almost buy FM,tp husband said, xpayah,it's enuff.just feed him.
perasaan kdg2 ok.kdg2 k.o
standard la org lps bersalin.
sokongan suami sgt excellent.alhamdulillah.
after 3rd day br ade susu sket.
berpegang pada fakta=perut bayi hny sebesar guli
cukup.cukup.cukup.itu sahaja.
bile engorged  tried to pump.(1st time,manually)
kuar2 1oz je. tunjuk kat suami.
byk la tu...katanya...insyaallah cukup...
muke suami muke sposen.rs mau cekik shj.muahahaha
susu pump tu disimpan.
selang 2hari,pump,hasil meningkat 1.5oz.
bile pump dpt 2oz, wah!gembiranye...mcm byk....
hakikatnye,each time aku pump hny xlebih 3oz...
sume susu disimpan.xde diguna.
ms dlm pantang baru terhegeh google utk BF info.
br nk tny pd senior. =)
bile nk naik keje br pump sungguh2..
dpt 3oz kdg2 4oz..
tu pon da rasa byk...alhamdulillah.....

bila baca org lain pump dpt 7-8oz,hati sudah gundah...slalu tny kenapa...
mangsa: suami yg xtau pape \(~_^)/
smpkn lps pantang rs susu xcukup,
buat power pumping mlm2 smp tersengguk2 tahan ngantuk,
berlari2 masuk bilik Rijal mau susu,sambung balik....
stilllllllllllll...susu sama jgk,4oz...later found out,ape yg terhasil adalah mengikut demand bayi....
so let it be....
satu lagi aku xphm dulu adalah maksud kena kosongkn breast.
aiyo,mcm mn nk tau breast kosong ke x?
after 4bln pump br tau..muahahaha.....xpela,dari xtau....


perit.payah.penat.sume ada.tapi ia indah.
tp ttp usaha. sbb mmg xde FM kat umah.xnk beli.
somi kate,jimat.jimat.kedekut kah? hahahaha
blasah je la.
banyakkan membaca dan bertanya.
it is the main key. 

my question now.
cukupkah susu hny dgn 130oz-140oz shj dlm peti ais utk 2thn?
no deep freezer.
will it be suffiecient for Rijal to BF only without taking any solid foods until 2y.o?
my husband say yes.
n eat healthy food.
mak pon ckp...bg je susu,awk makan cukup 2,amik benda berkhasiat.
omakkk....


robbir yassir walatu'assir ya karim.................
(-_-")

01 November, 2010

gundah di hati...

hati teringin sangat
hati jugak megutarakan cabaran
hati kuat inginkn dorongan
hati jugak yang menggalakkan

giler...
bercampur baur semua ni...
to continue EXCLUSIVELY BF until 2 y.o?

comfem ade yg meluahkan pelbagai pandangan
tapi
suami yang memberi cadangan
pandangannya lembut dan berhikmah
tapi
dia kata semua terletak pada Nya dan Rijal
bila mana dia mahu makan
kita berikan dia pilihan...

apa yg ditunjukkan pasti ada kebaikan.....

***sedikit debar hilang,namun tetap bergetar***